Marriage and family therapy is a kind of psychotherapy in the United States, which understands a person from the dynamics of the family system (Family Dynamic), help individuals to learn about themselves from people (relationships between people), things (accidents of growth experience), and things (experience contact) experienced in the process of family growth, which can be individuals, husband and wife relationships, intimate relationships, parent-child relationships, or families between members, and can improve family getting along patterns, relationships and promote personal growth.

Family interaction and communication are common relationship conflicts. In the process of understanding the interaction mode between families, the goal of treatment can be achieved. Transforming the inner grudges and bringing about changes is to break through the shackles of the self and deal with each situation with a new model in relationships and circumstances, that is a great move.

I am studying for a master’s degree in Hong Kong and at the same time went to Macau, Shenzhen, Guangzhou, Henan, and other places to provide training, teaching and preaching on marriage and family topics. The relationship between family, marriage and relationship can reflect our experience and personality. In-depth discussion, you will understand that every stage of growth will affect me today and let me see the needs of Malaysia in the future.

A growing country naturally faces many social problems. Among them, people are affected by stress and emotions. The community needs to establish counselling and treatment caters to help families with stress, such as: violent families, single-parent families, addicted families, divorce, unemployment, mental and emotional families, educational problems, community culture, etc.

When I returned to Malaysia in 2014, I passed on the knowledge of marriage & family, provide counselling courses (personal growth, developmental psychology, counselling skills, group therapy, counselling theory, etc.), using non-profit method to cultivate trainee counsellors, among them are students with counselling certificates or diplomas (because Malaysia only recognizes students who have completed local universities, as foreign or private certificates are not recognized), supervise them to deal with different cases, analyze family and marital problems, as for complex and crisis cases, we will arrange referrals, so that we can enter the community to help more families, being invited to give lectures in different places (therapy begins at home, parent-child education, couples get along with each other, family trauma, etc.), and has been on the radio and newspapers to share family issues. In 2018, the first Malaysian Chinese Christian marriage and family counselling conference for education and cultivation was held.

There are similarities and differences in the thought, culture, and education between Eastern and Western people. The Chinese believe that family rumors should not be publicized, and that they can solve personal problems by themselves, thinking that seeing a psychiatrist and psychotherapy is a shameful thing.

Please let me assure you, now you are just stuck at the edge of a mountain, many pressures and struggles are difficult to verbalize, I understand your inner struggle and I will walk your journey with you, accompany you to meet the unknown self, tap and discover your potential and ability to face every struggle, restore the injured, and rebuild a healthy family, beautiful interpersonal relationship and a strong self. Remember, you are not alone, with my sincere heart, I will make you feel safe and walk in a relationship of mutual trust, which is a process of healing.

I am certified by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy) and the Hong Kong Professional Counseling Association; I am also one of the teaching assistants of the Hakomi International Training Center in Hong Kong and China, and I am currently studying Zhengdao in Kaohsiung, Taiwan PhD program at the Seminary. Moving towards mental health and self-growth is something I've always been looking for.

"The essence of Hakomi is to pay attention to what is going on inside without judgment,
It is also a path to deep and lasting healing. " 婚姻与家庭治疗在美国是一种心理治疗，从家庭系统动力（Family Dynamic）中了解一个人。分析个体从家庭成长过程所经历的人（人与人相处的关系）、事（成长经历的事故）、物（经验接触）中认识自己，可以是个人、夫妻关系、亲密关系、亲子关系或家庭之间的成员，并能改善家庭相处模式、人际关系和促进个人成长。

家庭的互动与沟通是常见的关系冲突，在过程中了解家庭之间的互动模式就能达到治疗的目标，转化内心的芥蒂而带来改变，就是突破自我的枷锁，以新的模式应对每个关系与环境，这就是改变。

本人在香港修读硕士同时去澳门、深圳、广州还有河南等地方培训、授课及传讲婚姻与家庭的课题，在家庭、婚姻与关系间的相处能反映我们的经历及性格。深入的探讨你会明白每个成长的阶段都会影响今天的我，也让我看见马来西亚未来的需要，成长中的国家自然面对许多社会问题，其中影响人们的是压力与情绪，社区需要建立辅导与治疗中心以帮助家庭出现的压力，如：暴力家庭、单亲家庭、成瘾家庭、离婚、失业、精神与情绪家庭、教育问题、基层问题、社区文化等，需要更多有经验的辅导员或社工介入。

2014年囘到马来西亚就传递婚姻与家庭的课题，以中文媒介语在不同的学院教授辅导课（个人成长、发展心理学、辅导技巧、团体治疗、辅导理论等。），栽培更多人应对和关顾社会的问题，也是家庭的问题。再以非盈利栽培实习辅导员，当中有辅导证书或文凭的学生（因马国只认可完成本地大学的学生，至于国外或私立的证书还不被承认），督导他们应对不同的个案，分析家庭及婚姻问题，至于复杂及危机的个案就安排转介，就能进入社区帮助更多的家庭。常被邀请到不同的地方讲讲座（治疗由家开始，亲子教育、夫妻相处模式、家庭带来的创伤等），上过电台与报章分享家庭课题，在2018年也举办了第一届马来西亚中文基督教婚姻与家庭的辅导大会，为的是教育与栽培。

东方与西方人的思想、文化与教育异同，华人认为家丑不外扬，个人有问题就自己搞定，见精神医生和心理治疗是件羞耻的事。请让我告诉你，现在的你只是卡在瓶颈，本人心理治疗是身体与情绪的技巧（Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy），许多的压力、挣扎及伤害会难以口述，我明白你内心的挣扎，会温柔的与你同行，陪你遇见未知的自己，挖掘与发现你的潜能和能力面对每个挣扎，让受伤的地方复原过来，重新建立一个健康的家庭、美好的人际关系和茁壮的自我。记住，您并不孤单，我以真诚 (Congruence)的心让您有安全感以互信的关系同行，这就是疗愈。

本人持有美国婚姻及家庭治疗学会 (AAMFT: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy) 和香港专业辅导协会的认证；也是Hakomi国际训练中心在香港与中国扩展的其中一位助教，目前修读台湾高雄正道神学院的博士课程。迈向心理健康与自我成长是我一直所追求的。

“哈科米的本质是不加评判地留意内在发生什么，
这也是一条通往深入和持久疗愈的道路。”